Global Dating Part 2: She Said

The “she said” story begins with the array of circumstances preceding my trip to San Francisco in January (2013). The year 2012 was rough, but beautiful as I saw the Lord’s faithfulness displayed through some intense physical and emotional journeys. In pursuit of fresh escapades and with a passion to experience the truths I believed intellectually, I set out for my favorite city. It was crazy to be sure, but I couldn’t silence the unexplainable desire I had to go and adventure with Jesus. And adventure I did!

sailing in the SF BayThe four weeks I spent in San Francisco were a time of healing, of beauty, of repose. It was priceless. Jesus met His little princess there in the heart of San Francisco. He whispered His love to me again and again until its reality seeped deep into my very being. He provided for me. He sent dear friends to me to share more of His goodness. One of those friends was Joey.

And in case you suspect I was swept off my feet during that trip, allow me to set the record straight. No one did any falling (or catching). Joey and I did, however, have a surprisingly great time reconnecting and reminiscing about days gone by. In hindsight, the first day we hung out couldn’t have been a more perfect date. But we weren’t dating and I was quite persuaded we were nothing more than good friends.

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The San Francisco chapter in the story of my travels ended all too quickly. Then began the emails. More emails. And longer emails. And then another visit. This time Joey was in Atlanta for a mutual friend’s wedding. I was emphatically prepared to give the “we’re just friends” speech since I had suspicions that Joey was more interested than I was. But in an unexpected turn of events, lunch segued to coffee and I found myself lost in conversation with Joey. Somewhere between the drive rehearsing my speech and the end of the 3- or 4-hour chat I had trashed the “just friends” illusion and decided if Joey ever asked me out on a date, I would say yes.

Several weeks later Joey texted to say he would be in Atlanta over the 4th of July and if possible to “keep your schedule open.” What in the world?! I admit, I stressed over my response. Should I be sassy? Play hard to get? What if he was only coming to see family?

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My questions were put to rest a couple weeks later when Joey called and officially asked me out on a date. But he didn’t just ask for one date, he asked for the entire weekend! I was surprised and delighted. The weekend plan was impressive. And I had no idea the half of what was in store those next couple of days. Magnificent waterfalls, coffee, wonders of the sea, a family birthday event, a movie night, and a candlelight dinner (cooked by Joey himself) were all part of the whirlwind. It was a month’s worth of dates squished into 4 awesome days.

This time he did sweep me off my feet.

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The adventures and stories continue as Joey and I date across the U.S. We are increasingly grateful for technology when we’re apart and savor every moment we get to spend together in the same time zone and in the same city. Long-distance challenges are real, but facing them together makes it worthwhile.

In the words of Agnes from Despicable Me 2, “I’M SO HAPPY!!!!”

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How Living in the Moment will Change Your Life

I frequently find myself living life in either rewind or fast-forward. Sometimes simultaneously, which creates a truly frantic scene.  Perhaps you can relate. Whether reminiscing of the good ol’ days, reliving the epic event from last week, or anticipating the adventure of tomorrow, the present becomes obscured.

Have I inadvertently become a bystander by watching my life through an awkward combination of trailers and documentaries? What happened to this moment? Right now?

A series of recent adventures and uncertainties challenged me to be fully present. To stop gazing at the past and fretting over the future. To enjoy each minute as it came. To trust God fully.

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Simple moments, like basking in the sunshine on a walk to the train, listening to a street band, or watching pedestrians from inside a corner café, don’t have to be boring elements of a bigger story. They could be delightful experiences themselves. But how?

“Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise, sensible, intelligent people, making the very most of the time, buying up each opportunity, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15-16)

Seize the moment. This moment. Resist the urge to constantly rush to the next milestone. Enjoy what God has given right now. He daily loads us with benefits. Have we taken time today to soak up His perpetual goodness?

Living in the moment reduces worry and consequently increases our faith. It is impossible to both delight in the abundance of God’s faithfulness this moment and agonize over the uncertainty of tomorrow.

Living in the moment fosters gratitude. We are more apt to see the goodness and mercy of God (and thank Him for it) when we pause to notice the details of now. Maybe it’s the last available parking space we’re able to snag, a gracious smile from the cashier, some goofy time with family, a brief moment of absolute silence, or fresh air.

Living in the moment creates enjoyment. People who worry less, trust more, and are prone to gratefulness have more fun. True story. Incidentally, they are also more enjoyable to be around.

Should we still make plans and set goals? Absolutely. But don’t allow future plans to overshadow the opportunity to live each moment to the fullest.

It is interesting to note throughout Scripture how although God eternally is, was, and will be, He chose to introduce Himself over and over again as I AM, the ever-present Lord. Here are just a few references.

 “I AM your shield, your exceedingly great reward.” (Gen. 15:1)

I AM Almighty God; walk before Me and be blameless.” (Gen. 17:1)

I AM the God of your father Abraham; do not fear, for I AM with you.” (Gen. 26:24)

I AM who I AM.” (Ex. 3:14)

I AM the Lord, your Holy One, the Creator of Israel, your King.” (Is. 43:15)

I AM the Lord, and there is no other; there is no God besides Me.” (Is. 45:5)

“Then I will give them a heart to know Me, that I AM the Lord…” (Jer. 24:7)

“Behold, I AM the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for Me?” (Jer. 32:27)

“Moreover I also gave them My Sabbaths, to be a sign between them and Me, that they might know that I AM the Lord who sanctifies them.” (Ez. 20:12)

“For I AM God, and not man, the Holy One in your midst…” (Hos. 11:9)

I AM the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” (John 14:6)

I AM He.” (John 18:5)

I AM Jesus, whom you are persecuting….” (Acts 9:5)

I AM the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End,” says the Lord, “who is and was and who is to come, the Almighty.” (Rev. 1:8)

I AM the Root and the Offspring of David, the Bright and Morning Star.” (Rev. 22:16)

“Surely, I AM coming quickly.” (Rev. 22:20)

Will you take the challenge with me to live in the moment? To grasp the present? To know and walk with the I AM right now?

What moment-by-moment opportunities are you buying up today? (Please share in the comments!)

Confessions of a Planaholic

Once upon a time, there was a little girl who loved to plan. It began harmless enough as she inquired about plans for school, lunch, and playtime. But this desire to know what was happening, when, and why, steadily morphed into what some might classify as an obsession. Instead of a series of moments lived, life became a ferris wheel of calculated plans and regimented actions.

Perhaps you can relate. Is your life a scripted sequence of events with the vague promise of security and success? Or is it a mathematical equation where event[a] added to event[b] equals presumed happiness? Sadly, this was my life.

Through several job changes, a mission trip, a severe extended illness, and unrealized ambitions, God engineered my circumstances to obliterate my carefully crafted plans. Without a doubt it was an excruciating process. I was a control freak and I didn’t want to admit it. The only guaranteed path to success that I knew was snatched away and I was no longer in control. In hindsight, it seems evident that one of God’s divine purposes in this upheaval of my life was to teach me to trust Him.

Trust, not just a passing thought or a clever cliché, but real trust in a real God through real situations. Each event was like Jesus asking me, “Will you trust Me now?” I am ashamed to say, too often trust was my last recourse. As a natural-born planner, I had Plan A, B, C, D, and E readily available. Trust was Plan Z. Having exhausted my plans and finding myself in a state of desperation, I collapsed in the Lord’s ever-present arms. I discovered that all the while He was ready and willing to prove His faithfulness to me. He was simply waiting for me to wait on Him. To trust Him fully. To rest in His supremacy. To relinquish my plans in exchange for His perfect plans.

Trusting God is scary. Not because God is in any way inept or insufficient, but because the path is unknown to us. According to common sense, the unexpected is risky. But, this is not true when the unexpected comes from our omniscient God. “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” (Corrie Ten Boom) Trust is a daily, intentional act that requires courage. Although it still freaks me out to surrender my plans, I’m learning that Jesus is always trustworthy. Only through trusting Him can I find the authentic peace and security I crave.

 

The words to this old hymn by Frances Ridley Havergal say it best:

 

Every joy or trial falleth from above

Traced upon our dial by the Sun of Love.

We may trust Him fully, all for us to do:

They who trust Him wholly, find Him wholly true.

Stayed upon Jehovah, hearts are fully blest

Finding as He promised, perfect peace and rest.